Welcome to Sex Lives of Moms first edition of the Friday Five: Five Questions answered by a mom somewhere in our great country about her sex life.
This week’s contributor, L describes herself as:
A thirty-six year old mom of two, a 6-year-old and 21-month-old. I was a professional student (seriously how many partial degrees can one have?) and now am a part-time book seller/ full time stay-at-home-mom.
How would you describe your sex life after kids?
Catch-where-catch-can.
What’s been your biggest sexual challenge since becoming a mom?
Doing it with the lights on (not there yet.)
On the one hand, I am so proud of my body which grew and successfully bore two gorgeous, healthy kids and continues to feed one; on the other, why does my stomach STILL look like that!? It is hard to look in the mirror and LOVE all the sag and veins and stretch marks. How could hubs?
What is the most important thing to you about your sexuality?
This is kinda like asking me what is the most important thing to me about Mount St. Helens. They’re both dormant at the moment. Doesn’t mean she’ll never blow, but, well, right now our focus is elsewhere.
What does being a sexual mama mean to you?
Being a sexual mama means recognizing that the only thing constant is change. Being a mom doesn’t mean I don’t get horny. But, by 10 o’clock, I am toast, I just want to watch Storage Wars and go to bed. Accepting where I am and not doing it for the sake of doing it. So yes, I need to smell the cooking to realize I am hungry. So woo me.
Also, really DO NOT TOUCH MY TITS. They are working right now and need to be respected, like a seeing-eye dog.
What’s the best thing about your sex life now?
The best thing about my sex life is that I have one, it exists. This last year has been really tough with a recent move, traveling hubs that breeds resentment like bunnies, and trying to find my place in my new town and in the world at large.
Thank you so much L for participating in this week’s Friday Five and for your thoughtful answers.