Here is a quick tip for better sex: try daytime sex.
I know. It sounds impossible. But the reality is, moms need daytime sex.
As parents your time is limited, exhaustion abundant, and getting two libidos to ignite at the same time…well, it has its challenges.
Does your day go something like this?
You get home from work and start dinner. Your partner comes home and sets the table; you eat dinner and then wrangle your kids for bedtime routines. Pajamas, teeth, story time, snuggles, hugs and kisses, water to drink, lights on or off, and finally (maybe) they’re asleep. You go to the kitchen and half-heartedly wash some of the dinner dishes and then swear you’ll get to the rest in the morning as you collapse together on the couch for some mind-numbing television watching.
The whole evening has gone by without realizing it and it’s time to go to sleep. You half-heartedly reach for each other from your different sides of the bed. Maybe you rub a tired foot against your partner’s but you just don’t have the energy to take it any further, so you sink into your pillows and it’s lights out.
Who has time and energy for sex?
People who have sex during the day, that’s who.
Yes, it’s tricky. Work schedules, smart children, and household duties interfere, but sneaking in some daytime sex will change your sex life. Here’s why you should try it:
You have the energy for sex. Not being tired when you are thinking about having sex makes it much more likely that you will have it. When exhaustion isn’t a major player, you feel free to explore getting aroused and feeling desire for sex.
You feel sexier during the day. I didn’t say sexy, just—sexier. When it is daytime, there’s a chance your shirt hasn’t had goo mushed into it yet, and your mascara still on your eyelashes and not melted down your cheeks. So yeah, sexier…mom style.
It feels illicit. Daytime sex is different. You’ve been having nighttime sex for years, so doing it when the sun is out feels exciting and maybe a little bit wrong. That’s hot.
Daytime is hot. You can see each other without having to turn on the lights. You know people are out there working and yet here you are having sex. You get to go through the rest of the day with a twinkle in your eye instead of passing out for the rest of the night.
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