The Friday Five: Canadian Edition
Five Questions answered by a mom somewhere in
our great country Canada about her sex life.
This week’s contributor, H says this about herself:
I’ve been married for 15 years. I have two kids: a 10 year old girl and 8 year old boy. I lost my job in the spring, so I’m now taking courses to become a fitness trainer. I live in Canada.
What’s the best thing about your sex life now?
The best thing about my sex life now is that it is uninhibited. It took me a LONG time to figure out how to do this (and some not-so-good choices), but the fact remains that it’s the best part. It has opened me up to being happy, creative, and looking for new adventures. I’m shocked at some of the things I LIKE!
How would you compare your sex life before kids with after kids?
It’s unusual now-a-days to marry a virgin, but my husband and I were both in this boat when we got married. It wasn’t amazing. I was insecure. Inhibited. And troubled with the lack of affection I was receiving now being translated into sex. I was quite disillusioned before we had kids. Kids provided a distraction from my feelings for a time, so it was less stressful. The pressure wasn’t on me all the time, I could find some relief from my inner distress and emotional questions I had but wasn’t acknowledging at the time.
What is the most important thing to you about your sexuality?
I would say that feeling beautiful and sexy is super important to me. Smelling good. Eating well Exercising to get the blood flowing are all parts of who I am that make me feel like a sexual being.
What does being a sexual mama mean to you?
I think it means that I have to LOCK THE DOOR!! Find something to occupy the kids for a time that will not include them having to ask questions. Usually it involves electronics, which is not my favorite thing for the kids to play with, but it is the only thing that seems to keep them from pounding on the door. It’s always worth it!
Anything fun or exciting in your sex life you want to share? (I live vicariously.)
I have discovered costumes and role playing lately that are quite exciting. I’ve started a little collection of easy-to-pick-up pieces that I keep in a drawer waiting for inspiration. The “school girl” outfit is a fun one because I can just put on the clothes and pretend I’m young again and he’s a handsome teacher that needs to be seduced. I don’t think you have to spend a ton of money on costumes, but the “policewoman” arrived yesterday in the mail, and I can’t wait to arrest my husband…but I have to catch him doing something naughty first…
Thank you so much H for participating in this week’s Friday Five. I love how creatively you have reinvented your sex life and feel MORE confident and sexy after kids.